Friday, June 24, 2011

Verbal Abuse - The Follow Up...

What a blessing my Verbal Abuse Made Me Stronger post has been.  

I didn't know what the outcome would be with sharing such details of a "private" relationship.  I was honestly a little worried that I would hurt feelings and friends would think negatively for sharing something that several people would know exactly who I was talking about.  

But, what I have realized is there were more then two people affected by previous marriage.  I heard from friends and family that had no idea and those who did.  I also heard from my ex-husband and the "18-year old stripper".  I wasn't surprised to hear from the first, but the latter definitely took me off guard.  The words I shared with both were beautiful and honest.  I have not one negative feeling in the bottom of my heart for these two.  We are all in different places in our life and it was nice to hear that they are both doing great.  

The "girl" is no longer a girl going through a difficult time in her life, but a E5 in the Army while currently being in Afghanistan, she's working on her RN and being a wife and a mother to a beautiful two year old girl.  The "ex" is now a husband and a dad to a beautiful girl as well.  And I don't believe all three of us would be where we're at today if we didn't go through this time.


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So in the past 48 hours I have talked to several people that are going through hard relational times in their life.  The thing I keep mentioning in my conversations with each is that heartache is real.  It's a physical pain and if it doesn't make you feel alive as much as falling in love lifts you off the ground than you might as well roll over in your grave.  Embrace the hurt because you'll want to remember it to realize in the future what to be grateful for.  

Every relationship with another person is different then the next.  No two are the same and the person involved should never be compared to a previous partner or friend.  I think it's beautiful to look in your past and see the meaning of a relationship that was a chapter in your life.  ...even if you don't see the meaning until years later, it will always come.

Never lift your trust off of Him.

Love, Sarah

9 comments:

Molly E. Nolan said...

You are lovely.

Breeann said...

I just read your post on Casey's blog and I just wanted to commend you on your courage. The fact that you were able to share your story, to get out of that relationship, and to move on with your life speaks a lot of who you are as a person. I hope your story speaks to many in similar situations and gives them the motivation to get out of it themselves. Be blessed!!

Mary Peyton Buck said...

Thank you for exposing your inner most authentic self, for being vulnerable, and for being an example for women everywhere. I'm totally going to riddle Casey with questions about you and how she came to know such a precious soul!!

Changing Lanes said...

thank you for sharing your story...may it help someone in need. :) blessings!

Liz said...

Your words are so beautiful! I was in a 2.5 year relationship that was about half like you were talking about. It. Was. Rough. And I cried and apologized every single day for things that were so irrational. I can relate and I love that you are using your pain to help others. Thank you for sharing! Liz

Lindsay @ Delighted Momma said...

You are brave. Thank you for sharing such a personal experience. By doing so, you have most definitely helped someone else who can relate to your story.

kels said...

hi! I read your post on Casey's blog... and it totally touched my heart. you are WONDERFUL for sharing your story. I have a friend that I believe may be in a similar relationship, so this really tugged on my heart strings... I pray for her every day.

but also- your blog looks great and I'm excited to read more! :) happy Monday!

SavedByGraceDesigns said...

Hi. Thank you for sharing your story! My husband and I dated off and on for ten years before we got married. Married life with him was nothing that I ever expected. While he wasn't exactly abusive, there was no love in my marriage at all. We were married for ten years before I filed for divorce...I too did not believe in Divorce...But it was the best thing that I have done in my life. God bless you and your family, and may God continue to bless your life!

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